About Us
Trauma isn’t a life sentence
Hello, I’m Lerato.
Have you had enough of faking it, hanging in there, struggling to keep going, fooling everyone and yourself that when you say you’re fine, it’s actually true?
Have you had enough of faking it, hanging in there, struggling to keep going, fooling everyone and yourself that when you say you’re fine, it’s actually true?
You’re exhausted by the deviousness. Barely holding on by a thread, terrified that it will snap right at the wrong moment. Such as when your boss criticises your work, or when you think your partner doesn’t support you?
Suddenly, you’re not holding it in anymore, you’re in tears, you’re screaming. You know your response is out of proportion to what happened.
You know why!
Suddenly, you’re not holding it in anymore, you’re in tears, you’re screaming. You know your response is out of proportion to what happened.
You know why!
I know you know. Because I have been there too. High functioning anxiety, complex PTSD and severe dissociative disorder. Hiding from confronting the actual cause of the anxiety, panic attacks and depression. Hiding the real you. Because you don’t want to go back there, to face the actual cause. To face the monster that is your trauma.
I was the same. I’d taken all the extra activities you are told to do, gone to the counseling sessions they said was all I could receive. And my trauma would disappear. So I figured I’d get used to it, tape over the cracks, get on with life. And not be defined by the pain.
Except I was being defined by it, wasn’t I? Just like you. By hiding, I wasn’t being me. And you want to be you. You miss you. You never really got to know yourself well enough. You wonder sometimes, what would that lost person make of your life now?
I found myself again. And I can help you find yourself too. The first and hardest step is to reach out.
I’ve got you from there.
Our Services
Trauma coaching
Relationship Coaching
Mentoring
Group Coaching
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There’s no “one size fits all” approach to recovery
That’s why the Reaffirm Life coaching programmes are tailored to your unique needs, enabling you to finally let go of what has been holding you back and embrace the life you long to lead.
Step 1
Recovery
Develop the tools that enable you to self-rescue and trust your sanity again.
Step 2
Rediscovery
No longer seeing yourself as fragile or broken, befriend the new you.
Step 3
Reaffirmation
Integrate your mind & body into your whole self and show up fully into your relationships.
Healing pathways
Trauma-Informed Coaching For Individuals Who Want To Move Past Their Pain
You deserve to be living your best life, a full and whole life.
What happened to you was terrible. Worse than terrible. You don’t deserve it. It’s not fair that even after all these years, it still has a hold on you.
What happened to you was terrible. Worse than terrible. You don’t deserve it. It’s not fair that even after all these years, it still has a hold on you.
On the outside, everything looks great. You have a wonderful family and great friends and partnerships. But your partner is often confused as to why you find intimacy difficult, but they’re understanding and patient. At work, they have no complaints.
But, inside. Inside you’re worried that one day your child will see you kicking the sofa when you have a breakdown. Inside you flinch at the thought of saying no again tonight. Inside you hate that you’ve just gorged on all that chocolate, and you’ll have to run further tomorrow. Inside you want to scream.
It’s exhausting isn’t it? Pretending to be fine. Meanwhile you’re really insecure, neurotic and feeling highly emotional. Constantly living on the edge of insecurity and neurotic. It erodes your self-worth and self-esteem until all that is left is self-hatred. You yearn to feel like the empowered, strong person you are.
Why Choose Us?
The ReAffirm Life programme is for you if:
- You’ve been holding on for years or even decades
- You thought you’d always be broken
- You thought this was the best life could be
- You’ve built a life, a career and a family but feel like you’re holding on by a thread
- You’re disassociated from your body, it’s just a vehicle you live in
- Loving yourself is a far off concept
- Intimacy is disconnected or impossible
- You desperately yearn for something more
Our Packages
Together, we can decide which option is right for you.
All our coaching packages are tailored for you, and your individual needs. You determine the pace. Where you’re at decides the detail of what we’ll cover. All healing is different, and your sessions have to suit your unique healing process.
All coaching is at our offices or remote, from the comfort of your own safe and secure location.
R 2500
FOUNDATIONS
For women who need support to re-establish their foundations and stand on solid ground.
- 3 sessions
- 60 minutes each
- 6 weeks
- Learn the tools & techniques to rescue yourself
R 3800
SIGNATURE PROGRAMME
For women who want to finally let go of the past and step into their whole selves.
- 6 sessions
- 60 minutes each
- 3 months
- Support in-between & sessions over email
R 5500
PLUS
The signature programme, plus additional support to embed learnings into your life.
- 9 sessions
- 75 minutes each
- 6 months
- Support in-between & sessions over email
Frequently Asked Questions
Coaching gives you a supportive safe space to explore what’s going on for you and learn new skills that enable you to design the life you want to live and live it.
Our approach to coaching is trauma-informed through varied experiences and compassion. If you want a drill-master, that is not us. Instead, if you slip off the path, we offer compassion, care, understanding while we gently nudge you back.
Our approach to coaching is trauma-informed through varied experiences and compassion. If you want a drill-master, that is not us. Instead, if you slip off the path, we offer compassion, care, understanding while we gently nudge you back.
You might. If your trauma is new, a therapist is often your best bet. A safe place to make sense of the story, to sort the pieces of it in your mind is a very necessary step.
But there comes a time when telling yourself your story starts to hold you back. There’s that saying – ‘the habits you created to survive will no longer serve you when it’s time to thrive.’ New neuro pathways need to be created, ones that will open up the world to you, not close it down. And this is where come in.
But there comes a time when telling yourself your story starts to hold you back. There’s that saying – ‘the habits you created to survive will no longer serve you when it’s time to thrive.’ New neuro pathways need to be created, ones that will open up the world to you, not close it down. And this is where come in.
Whatever you are comfortable sharing. We will never press you on anything that you are not ready to confront.
No! Many people believe we have to unpack the story of what happened and face into it. That’s not our coaching style . You have been living that story already for so long you don’t need to face into it anymore. We work slowly and gently around the edges of the wound, until eventually we have dealt with the pain and trauma in full.
Yes! As well as it being the absolute right thing to do, I am a certified member of the International Coach Federation (ICF) who’s ethics code rightly insists on confidentiality. Of course, it’s not two-way: you’re allowed to share whatever you want to anyone you want.
Simply, a week isn’t long enough to absorb the lessons of one session, and do the work that needs to be done between sessions. With any new habit, the exercises we adopt will not ‘take’ overnight. You’ll need to keep focusing on them. Two weeks gives you space to do that.
We recognise that you’ll have a life to get back to after our sessions; you can’t be an exhausted melted heap. This is why we spend time at the end of every session with a meditation, that not only embeds the learning into the unconscious, but also leaves you empowered and at peace.
Sessions are held over Google Meets. It’s best if you can arrange to meet at a time and place where you won’t be interrupted and can talk in private.
Whilst it is helpful to be able to see your facial expressions, some of my clients (initially) prefer not to be on camera. And that’s perfectly ok too.
Yes. We’ll discuss any requirements and come to a mutually agreed solution.
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